A few weeks ago, I shared a few of my tips for handling parenting’s messes and stresses. My tips included things like making a to-do list and asking others for help. Of course, my post covers the “Mom’s Point of View” of handling a toddler boy, but what about the dads? Ever wonder how they tackle everyday messes and stresses? For this post, I’m interviewing my husband to hear what he has to say on parenting stresses from a dad’s point of view. I might be dreading his answers, but we’ll see…
We both know that the boy can get easily frustrated and has occasional melt-downs, what’s the first thing that comes to mind when this happens?
When I see him start melting-down, honestly, my first instinct is to get angry. It takes me a few seconds to realize that he probably just needs some help and I calmly ask him what he needs.
[Laughs] I’ll admit that I can get a little frustrated, but I really do try to not take it out on him. I know he’s still too young to express exactly what he needs sometimes, but once I realize that I just try to help him.
OK, so we’ve covered tantrums. How about when he makes a mess? Toys everywhere. How do you handle that when I’m not around?
Besides wait for you?
Yes. (Duh!) How do you handle that by yourself?
I typically don’t clean-up while he’s playing. I wait till we’re completely done in that room and have him help me. I don’t want him to be one of those kids that leaves a mess all over the place and waits for his parents to pick it all up. Not my son, he’s gonna learn to pick up his own mess. He doesn’t listen all the time so I make a game out of it and he’s more likely to help.
Any words of advice for other dads out there?
The biggest piece of advice I can give is: Be Flexible. Before my son was born I had all these ideas in my head on how he was going to be raised, things he was going to do, and so on. I can be a hard pill to swallow when things don’t turn out the way you planned. Learning to be flexible will help alleviate some inevitable stress down the road.
So there you have it, folks! Some tips on handling raising a toddler from a dad’s point of view. (And it totally wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be…LOL!)
And on Thursday, September 20th, from 12:00 pm EST to 1:00 pm EST, you can hear how Mexican TV personality and father of two, Poncho de Anda, handles parenting and even ask him a question of your own. (*Please note that the chat will be in Spanish.) You can find the chat on the Huggies Latino Facebook Page - just look for Poncho’s picture of the page to participate in the chat. He looks like this —>